Are Marriages Really Worth The Drama, The Bias And The Money?

Drama

Truly, a marital union in the house calls for a huge –scale of celebration. It all gets started fifteen days from the marriage as relatives start pouring in from everywhere. Then, there will be a group of youngsters making merry, getting mehendi designs on their palms, and on the other hand can be seen the pre-occupied elderly going beyond their means and making arrangements for the big day.

All is well till now, it is your child’s marriage; you have the liberty to make it happen your way. Call as many people as you want. The more the merrier; but am not saying that!

Bias

Now, comes the bias. How is it fair for only the bride’s parents to cover for ALL the expenses in hospitality of the groom’s relatives, in addition to their very own!? How CAN the guy’s side take it so easily, don’t they feel ashamed?! On one side you are getting a lovely girl for the rest of your life (conditions apply!) and on the other you ask for dowry! Can anyone give me one good justification in its defence!?

These days, 70% of women are financially self-supported. So, it cannot be like, “Oh I’m the guy, I’ll be taking take charge of her from now own, paying her bills and stuff. So, dowry is my right! Compensate me for 

the future now.”

I’m only trying to suggest that the task of arrangement should be equally divided amongst both the parties. It becomes a huge thing to take care of by the bride's parents all by themselves. Agreed, everyone does it in the end, but however rich they are they always try to go ‘beyond their means’.

Money

It’s time I get back to our wedding guests. Remember, they had come over, brimming with joy, in an ‘all-party-mood’! Now, why need they be served? Technically, it should not make a difference to them. They are all well-off and weekly restaurant visits are fixed for them. Who cares for real blessings these days!? Everyone comes to have a gala time, with free buffet, DJ et al. Next year, how many of them really wish the newly wedded couple a ‘Happy Anniversary’!? Like it matters, I know, but little observations do help in 

statistics.

I just came up with a bit of a solution. Why not share your joy with those who will value it even more and to whom it can actually make a difference! It may sound all far-fetched and unpractical but there is always a beginning. I’m just giving an example of an orphanage, for instance. Imagine, those kids enjoying a day different from their regular lives. When they get to savour delicious food, dance, play around.. Arrange a wedding party in a place like that.

In the name of prestige and honour, parents of the bride are ready to go beyond their ability so as to secure her a smooth future. Sometimes, the family-in-law mistreat the girl if they had been dissatisfied with the amount of dowry or marriage arrangements.

Similarly, the familial relations are to be pleased. This is to get the public discussions in their favour. People are best at talking and making stories, “Did you see the diamond-engraved watch he got from his in-laws?”,”The girl has only received a gold-plated chain!”. But I blame none. Some things can never be changed.

Nonetheless, at such an occasion, that I described earlier about the orphanage, you can also invite your guests to dispense their blessings over the young couple apart from the kids. A side-advantage of this for everyone is to be able to improve their karma.